What you experienced is a reaction to a long, sauntering post with no clear question in it. Such posts are likely to be down-voted and (if not edited) eventually closed as either "not constructive" or "not a real question" because it isn't evident to others what, exactly, you are asking.
When asking a question, it's best to be specific and concise.
Endeavour to make your question as short as possible – but no shorter; i.e. don't leave out relevant information; do leave out lengthy opinion on the matter. You are here to get answers, not to initiate a lengthy discussion on multiple subjects.
I also suggest using a meaningful, summarizing question as title for your more detailed question. "Romance, Marriage, Financial Debt, And Psychology" is not a question. When the title is not a question, we need to go looking for what the real question is. If the question body itself is long and possibly unclear, can you see the problem?
Don't be discouraged. Learn & edit. Most of us got here the same way.